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Grandparents Have an Important Role with Children During a Divorce

Grandparents Have an Important Role with Children During a Divorce

Even the most amicable divorce can have significant impacts on children. Children are often confused and unable to completely understand what is happening to their family. Some children even blame themselves, wondering if they have done something to cause the breakup of their parents. When children have trouble processing the emotions that they are feeling regarding a divorce, it is important for the grandparents to be there for their grandchildren. Grandparents play an important role in the lives of children who are going through an emotionally difficult time. 

The Grandparents' House is an Emotional Shelter

While many divorces are amicable, there is a significant amount of paperwork that needs to be completed. This could be accompanied by many meetings with lawyers and packing up of the family's assets. This process can be overwhelming for children who are not sure whether or not they should help the process. For this reason, many children will want to leave their house and stay with their grandparents. The grandparents’ house is an important shelter where kids can just travel and get away from the situation. There, kids can try to find a sense of normalcy. This will be important as kids try to keep their lives on track. 

Children Will Want to Ask Questions of their Grandparents

Without a doubt, children are going to have many questions regarding what is happening to their family. They may be nervous to ask their parents because their parents are obviously busy handling the divorce proceedings. Therefore, the kids are going to want to ask questions of their grandparents. Examples of common questions could be whether or not their parents will ever get back together or if the divorce is their fault. It will be important to grandparents to answer the questions in a hopeful manner without making any false promises. Kids will remember these conversations. Grandparents should also be careful to not give too much information that may impact the children negatively. Details such as the family’s financial situation, any extra-marital affairs or any other reasons that may have led to the divorce should not be shared with the children.

Grandparents can Educate the Children

Grandparents can use the questions children ask them to educate the children on the situation. It will be important for grandparents to remind the kids that their parents still love them, regardless of how it might seem. It is also important to remind the kids that they can come to their grandparents with any issues. In this manner, grandparents can remind the children that this is not their fault and that there is hope on the other side. This is an important part of the role of the grandparents in divorce. This of course includes the notion that grandparents should avoid speaking ill of their former daughter-in-law or son-in-law. It is harmful to children to overhear their grandparents criticize or disparage their parents. Children may begin to feel like they need to act a certain way when they are with their maternal grandparents and a different way when they are with their paternal grandparents if those sets of grandparents do not get along and continue to express negative opinions towards the other side.

Grandparents Do Not Have Any Legal Rights to Time-Sharing

Grandparents will often ask if they have a legal claim or right to time-sharing with their grandchildren in the event their child passes away or becomes estranged. In the State of Florida, grandparents have no such legal right to time-sharing. So, if a child’s mother passes away and the child’s father does not have a good relationship with the child’s maternal grandparents, the maternal grandparents will not be able to legal enforce any time-sharing with the child. Even though it may be in the child’s best interests to continue a relationship with his or her maternal grandparents, they will have no recourse if the child’s father refuses to facilitate that relationship. Hopefully, the parent in such a situation will recognize that it is in the child’s best interest to continue spending time with his or her grandparents, particularly if they already have a close relationship.

Article updated October 15, 2020.

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